THE GRIEF WINDOW:
This is sometimes called The Grief Window. When we welcome it, rather than seeking to deny it, it can become a place of opportunity. It contains a vulnerability from which we may heal, transform and grow. This can require courage, but to ignore it is to risk more suffering. When we continue to hold onto the patterns of the past because they have become familiar to us, we simply create more pain by our resistance.
THE HURT CHILD:
Often The Grief Window is created from all that we did not receive as a child, from the potentials that we feel we have lost, as well as from actual losses in our lives. Within many people lies a hurt grieving child who may have felt abandoned, neglected, rejected, abused, shamed, punished unworthy, unwelcome, unsafe and unloved. Often this grief lies buried beneath anger. A Grief Window may have opened within you, the loss of a lifetime may be with you. Begin to simply acknowledge the feelings and let them go softly, gently. They will release and flow into ease over time. Moving through grief is a process: denial, anger, grief, bargaining, acceptance and self-forgiveness.
LOCKING INTO GRIEF:
When we are locked into grief, we remove ourselves from the flow of life. Our world grows smaller. Our hearts shrink in self-protection. Ultimately, suppressed grief can cause dis-ease in the body, particularly the lungs. The grieved one would never have wished that for us.
A SIMPLE MEDITATION:
Gently close your eyes. Feel yourself connect with the ground beneath you. Let your breath begin to deepen and slow. Imagine yourself surrounded by soft blue light. Gently begin to breathe in this calming blue light. With each breath, breathe out any sadness, grief or heartache. Breathe in love and let it soothe you, bringing a sense of peacefulness and release.
Let yourself grieve for that Hurt Child within you, knowing they are now being held safe in your adult consciousness.
As you breathe, begin to create spaciousness as your chest gradually opens. Into spaciousness can step love and inspiration.
Into that spaciousness allow something new to form. New ideas. Fresh ways of thinking. A shift in perspective on your loss… As we let go of grief, we do not lose that person, but enable a greater purity of love. Love is infinite and eternal. We are the vessels through whom it flows. When we are locked into grief, the flow ceases. Our world grows smaller. Our hearts shrink in self-protection.
Come back to your breath any time your feelings become a little too much. Come back into the soft gentle blue light, watch as white clouds move, change shape, disperse.
Breathe in compassionate tenderness for yourself.
Breathe out any pain or loss or anger into the calm, quiet, gentle blueness of light.
Continue to breath gently for a few more minutes. Then become aware of your body and your connection to the ground below you. Open your eyes and come back to the room.
CREATING SPACE FOR MORE LOVE:
To move through loss, begin to recognise that you are creating space for something better. Trust you can flow forward, that life will support you. If you are grieving lost love and connection to others, gently remind yourself that anything and anyone we have loved will always be part of you.
In moving through grief, you hold life less tightly. You reclaim your ability to live lightly. Then you will naturally breathe more deeply. As you move through grief, you create space for more love.
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